All articles tagged with #ask amy
A husband seeks advice from Amy Dickinson about a new member in his wife's running group who constantly texts her, seemingly ignoring the husband's existence. Amy suggests the husband talk to his wife about his concerns and how the texting contact makes him feel, emphasizing that he trusts his wife but feels uncomfortable with the situation.
At a work dinner during a professional conference, a colleague shamed a reader for ordering meat in front of vegetarian bosses. Amy Dickinson advises that the colleague's behavior was rude and unprofessional, and that the bosses likely have no issue with the reader's dietary choices. She suggests that the colleague's attempt to suck up by shaming the reader was unappetizing and emphasizes the importance of representing the organization positively and responsibly.
A widower seeks advice after his daughter excludes his partner, who has a disability, from a family gathering. He suspects the real reason might be his partner's anti-vaxxer comment that offended some in-laws. Amy suggests discussing the banishment with his daughter to understand her perspective, but ultimately advises letting it go to maintain peace with the in-laws.
A husband wants to pay his adult daughters to lose weight, but his wife disagrees, believing it's a mistake to bring up their weight. Amy Dickinson suggests discussing obesity as a disease rather than a character flaw and approaching the topic in a loving, supportive, and non-judgmental way. She emphasizes the challenges and stigma surrounding obesity and encourages open communication.
A concerned mother seeks advice on how to support her alcoholic daughter without enabling her. Amy Dickinson suggests maintaining a loving relationship, offering a judgment-neutral safe harbor, and encouraging treatment while maintaining boundaries to avoid enabling the addiction. She also recommends seeking support from therapy, Al-Anon, and reading "Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie.
Two brothers raised in an abusive household struggle with tension in their relationship, with one feeling like he's always walking on eggshells around the other. Amy advises the reader to reach out to his brother in a genuine manner, despite the fear of doing the wrong thing, in an effort to inspire a more relaxed and authentic dynamic between them.
In an Ask Amy column, a man seeks advice on whether to reconnect with a former fling who is now ill. Amy advises him to carefully examine his motives and consider the woman's feelings before deciding to visit her. She suggests reaching out to her first to gauge her interest in reconnecting, rather than acting on his own unresolved feelings or pity for her situation.
A woman is disgusted by her husband's constant marijuana use and sneaky behavior. Amy Dickinson advises her to consider the possibility of marijuana use disorder and suggests seeking support from groups like Mar-anon.com and Marijuana Anonymous. She recommends detaching from her husband's behavior and focusing on her own well-being.
A reader of the Ask Amy column found the courage to leave her emotionally abusive marriage after reading an update from another reader and contacting the Domestic Violence hotline. She realized the extent of the abuse and is grateful for the support and information provided. Amy Dickinson encourages her to continue seeking help and safety as she leaves the marriage, and provides resources for anyone in an abusive relationship.
A bachelor seeks advice after complimenting a woman on her appearance for her 60th birthday, only to receive a pointed response questioning his assumption of what 60 is supposed to look like. The columnist advises against commenting on someone's looks unless invited to do so and suggests that such a compliment might be better received on the day of her 90th birthday.