"Building Sibling Support: Nurturing Care for Our Ailing Mother"

A reader seeks advice on how to get her out-of-state siblings to contribute more to the care of their ailing mother. The columnist suggests being clear about her needs, calculating the cost of additional help, and asking her siblings to work out how they will contribute financially. The reader is also encouraged to request more frequent communication. In another question, a person asks for advice on dealing with a sister who applies scented oil instead of deodorant, causing an overwhelming smell. The columnist suggests declining hugs and hoping it inspires her to change her regimen before the wedding. Lastly, a person wonders whether to honor a host's request for a gift certificate to a gun store, despite personal reservations. The columnist advises finding another gift that both the host will like and the giver will feel comfortable giving.