Navigating Sexual Experimentation and Its Consequences: Tales of Desire, Shame, and Overindulgence

A person who recently came out as bisexual to their wife is struggling to express their sexuality without making their wife uncomfortable. The wife's reaction of "shock and disgust" may be a projection of the writer's own self-hate and shame. The couple is having difficulty integrating toys into their sex life, but open communication and exploring different options, such as the wife wearing a strap-on, could help. Seeking community support and therapy may also be beneficial in addressing feelings of shame and self-hate. It is important to understand and address any signs of biphobia in the relationship.