Desire shifts in a long marriage: reframe, don’t fix the weight

The Telegraph agony-aunt column discusses a 50-something woman who’s lost attraction to her husband after 30 years together. Rachel Johnson argues the issue isn’t his weight but their evolving emotional connection, and urges reframing the relationship and having honest, compassionate conversations rather than pressuring him to lose weight or insisting on sex. The recommended path is to acknowledge a new phase in their marriage and work together to reconnect, rather than “fix” him with diet or gym efforts.