The Dilemma of Financial Independence: Parental Support vs. Personal Responsibility

A reader gave their son $16,000 as a gift during his divorce eight years ago, but now their husband wants him to repay it. The columnist advises determining whether the money was intended as a gift or a loan, and if it was a loan, creating a manageable payment plan. However, if it was a gift, the reader should consider the impact on their son's financial future and the potential consequences of not discussing the decision with their husband. Ultimately, the reader should make a decision based on what they believe is fair and seek open communication with both their son and husband.