The Secret Thoughts and Fantasies of Men During Sex

A man in a healthy relationship with a woman he loves and finds attractive has a habit of thinking about other women during sex. He runs a porn reel in his mind and has tried to redirect his thoughts to no avail. He wonders if it's disrespectful to his partner to think about someone else during sex and if there's hope for changing a lifelong sexual habit. The sex advice columnists suggest that while it's ideal to focus on your partner entirely during sex, it's sometimes necessary to fantasize, and if he thinks his partner would have a problem with it, he should tell her in the kindest, gentlest way possible and let her make her decision.