Expecting mom’s vaccine rules for visitors spark family clash, Abby advises boundaries

A pregnant woman asks whether visitors should be up-to-date on vaccines as her doctor recommended; some relatives resist and prefer testing or masking, leaving her stressed and resentful. Dear Abby says to prioritize the baby’s safety, follow medical guidance, and set clear boundaries (even distancing for the first three months) if family won’t respect wishes, and to consider family therapy for ongoing family tensions.