Navigating the Struggle of Performative and Oppressive Family Time: Insights from Sahaj

A reader expresses concern about the performative and oppressive nature of spending time with their family, driven by factors such as immigration trauma and the loss of parents. The advice given suggests examining the specific dynamics within the family, such as power imbalances and lack of communication, to determine if they are healthy. It is recommended to prioritize individual needs and establish boundaries, while also nurturing other relationships. Creating structure and exploring new activities can help improve the quality of family interactions. The reader is encouraged to address their fear of disappointing others and focus on making family time more nurturing rather than draining.