Navigating Grief and Doubt: Carolyn Hax's Insights on Friendship Challenges

A reader seeks advice on how to get over feeling angry and upset at a friend who was absent during their mother's death. The columnist advises against trashing the friend to others, as there may be unknown reasons for their behavior and they may be dealing with their own issues. The reader is encouraged to focus on the support they have received from others and to consider that diverting their pain towards the friend may be a coping mechanism. Ultimately, forgiveness or letting go of the matter is suggested, as the reader has enough to deal with in their grieving process.