"Ask Amy: Navigating a Risky Post-Wedding Plan with the Boss"

A department leader wants to have quarterly get-togethers for the group that attended a colleague's wedding, causing concerns about preferential treatment and obligation. A couple's smoking habit is making their neighbors sick, and they are struggling with declining a dinner invitation. Amy advises being honest about the health impact of cigarette smoke and setting boundaries. Another reader suggests asking if the person wants to be helped, heard, or hugged when sharing a problem.